Tuesday, November 15, 2005

The Final Story

Yesterday we received a call from Sandy at Kids to Adopt International. She had bad news. There is a grandmother who is very hostile. Sandy's coordinator in Kazakhstan contacted her and said there is no hope that she will ever agree to have her grandchildren adopted. She told the coordinator that she has one of the grandchildren living with her and she will never allow her grandkids to be adopted by Americans. Sasha and Galina will never be allowed to join our family. It is a definate NO. Almas has been truthful with us all along. Sandy asked us to consider adopting other children but we need time to coast for a while before we can even consider delving into something like this again. We feel very void. Our most common statement is "I don't know, I just don't know".

Wednesday, November 09, 2005

WEIRD HAPPENINGS

We had a phone call at 2 a.m. on Monday night. I answered the phone and the man on the other end had a strong accent. He asked me where he had called. I told him the U.S. I asked him where he was calling from and he told me Kazakhstan. I then asked Where? He said it's by Russia. I said Yes, but where in Kazakhstan. He told me he was calling from Almaty. I became concerned that someone had stolen Brent and Beth's cell phone. I asked him where he had gotten our number and he told me from the directory. He spoke very good english and understood everything that I said. I then hung up because I didn't know what else to do.

On Tuesday, November 8th, I called the bank and our money was deposited back in our account from Almas. This event has bothered me more than him telling me that he couldn't do our adoption. If he hasn't been scamming us none of this makes sense!! It's also a relief because Mark and I always believed that he wouldn't do this to us. It confirmed our belief in our gut instincts about people.

Thursday, November 03, 2005

A Ray of Hope

Sandy from Kids to Adopt International called me. She got a response. I'm not sure who it was from but they wanted clarification and outlined what will need to happen for us to change to Svetlana. We will have to get our dossier back or find a way for Svetlana to get it then have it resubmitted in her name. The best thing would be for it to remain in country and Sandy was saying that maybe Mira will release it or Brent and Beth can get it since they are our family. She emailed them back to find out if the kids are available and the fees for us. The person that wrote it said something about Almas being a small time person that doesn't have any power to do an adoption or the proper ways to go about it. Boy has this been a learning experience!!!!!! I could write a book on how not to go about doing an adoption.

Money! Money! Money!

Almas called us 4 times last night. He was at the bank trying to send our money back and needed the routing numbers and information. I have to call my bank today to get him a swift number because his bank couldn't find ours on their computers. He was there trying to do it for 1 1/2 hours. I was at work the first two times that he called and he told Mark that he had to sell his apartment to get all of the money. Mark and I are so confused now but also elated that it looks like our instincts aren't as bad as we were thinking. Praise God!!! He is a God of miracles. Now we wait to see where our documents are and for the money to actually be in our account.

Sunday, October 30, 2005

The Missing Sister, Tonya

Alfia was able to go see Tonya this past week. Tonya is 12. She lives in an orphanage for slow children in Ust. Alfia said that she spoke very well so not sure why she is there. She looks like Igor and Sasha but is extremely skinny. Alfia showed her pictures of the other kids and she started crying. She said she barely remembers them because it's been so long. Alfia took her a pair of tights and candy. The conditions at this orphanage are VERY bad.

Almas is suppose to call us tomorrow. We'll see........

I am hoping to hear back from Sandy from Kids to Adopt International about the status of our dossier.

Thursday, October 27, 2005

What Else Can Happen? Or Is The Adoption Going to Happen?

Almas told us a couple of weeks ago that the adoption couldn't happen because the kids had grandparents and they wouldn't sign permission. We decided that we would write a letter to the grandparents asking them for this permission and telling them about how we met the kids and our relationship with them. Albina's sister and brother in law who live in Ust agreed to travel to Shemonachai and deliver our letter and talk to the grandparents about our family. Andre and Alfia went on October 16th. What they found was very upsetting. It is on such an opposite extreme than what we've been told by Almas that we don't know what to believe now. They found that the grandmother has been dead for 4 years. The children's father died 2 years ago. The neighbors claim that no one has ever come to look for the family. They said that the grandfather is in the village and gave Andre and Alfia a different address. When they got to this house there were no windows, doors or furnace in the house. The neighbors there told them that the grandfather just wonders around the village and stays wherever someone will let him. They then found out the Igor, Sasha and Galina's 19 year old brother, lived in the village. They found him and talked to him at length. He was in an orphanage until he was 18. He is currently living with distant relatives and he is working doing some kind of inspection job. He has worked for 3 months and hasn't gotten paid yet. He told them that they have another sister, Tonya, who is in the orphanage for "normal" children in Ust. This is the sister that Almas has told us he did a missing persons report on and they never found her. Alfia asked about the "normal" orphanage and was told that the orphanage in Serybransk is for slow children. We don't know what to do with this information. Our minds are reeling!!!!!!!!!! Igor is going to come to Ust next weekend so that he can go visit Sasha and Galina when Andre and Alfia take the soccer donations to the orphanage. Igor says he will sign any documents that he has to to get his brother and sister a better life. He told Andre and Alfia that every kid in his group from the orphanage has been in jail or is currently in jail. We also asked Alfia to talk to Sasha to make sure he really wants to be adopted knowing that Igor is out there and can probably help him in some way.


October 23rd

I just heard from Albina. Alfiya went to the orphanage. They have a new director. She is Kazak and she was a former head of a juvenile home. She was horrible. She wouldn't let Alfiya take any pictures. They waited 3 hours to be able to see the kids. She took pictures of Sasha and Galina anyway. Alfiya had taken boxes of soccer equipment that one of the Dr's that I work for had mailed as donations to the orphanage. She wouldn't even open up the boxes and see the gifts. She instructed her people to take the things to storage. Alfiya only left half of the boxes and is going to take the rest of the stuff to the orphanage that Tonya is at. She talked to the director there and they were very nice. Alfiya is going to go to Tonya's orphanage tomorrow because she doesn't have to work for 3 days because of holidays. She asked Albina to tell us never to ask her to go to the orphanage again. Igor went with them and he was able to see Sasha and Galina for the first time in 4 years. He told them that every other kid from his group when he was at the orphanage is in jail or has been in jail. He has been working for 3 months and hasn't gotten paid yet. Igor talked to Sasha about being adopted and he still wants us to come and get them. Alfiya told the kids that we probably wouldn't be able to adopt them because of problems with documents. What a mess!!!! OK God, it's time for a miracle!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




October 27th

Mark finally got mad and frustrated enough that he called Almas. He talked to him this a.m. He told him I have good news and bad news. The good news is that we have found Igor and he will sign any papers so we can adopt the kids. The bad news is the bank wants their money and we are going to have heavy fines in 2 weeks if we don't show proof of the adoption or pay back the money. Almas told Mark he can have the money back to him in 3-5 days. Mark told Almas that he wants the kids. Almas told Mark that he will try to find Igor and get the papers signed and get Sasha and Galina on the international adoption list. Almas told Mark that usually they have to be on it for 6 months but he will be able to get this time period waived. Mark told him to call him back in 3 days. Mark will call him again on Monday if he doesn't hear from him. And the saga continues......................

I am waiting to hear from Sandy from Kids to Adopt International. She has sent out a request to see if our dossier has made it to the government office in Kazakhstan that it is suppose to be at. This is a big concern since it contains every personal document and info on Mark and I. There could currently be a Mark and Kristine Wolverton residing somewhere in Kazakhstan.

Thanks for the continued prayer. As Mark and I were out for breakfast this morning Mark looked at me and said, "I just had a horrible thought. What if God is making this so difficult so that I buy into this whole process more?" It was his thought not mine. hahahahahaha!!! God continues to give me peace beyond understanding. Just when I think it's over I get another small glimpse of hope that makes me continue to proceed forward.

Thursday, September 22, 2005

The Waiting Continues

It is hard to write and document things when they aren't progressing how you want or expect them to. We are still waiting for word from Almas about our adoption. Mark talked to him on September 14th and he told Mark that he had a meeting with the judge on the 15th. He told us that he was getting documents from the orphanages that the grandparents have had no contact with the kids since they arrived. Also, the grandparents have a different last name than our kids and they are the kids father's parents. So, he is hoping to get them our of the kids records on this. Mark is totally at peace with things. My sister Beth who is my prayer warrior fasted and prayed on Friday, Sept. 16th and also feels this peace. I have been beside myself wondering what is going on. I definately thought that this part would go much smoother since the begining was such a struggle. Apparently, I haven't learned the lessons that I need to such as patience. It took me almost a week to reach the peace that Mark was talking about. I was listening to the christian radio station and one of the speakers said something that reminded me that this isn't about me but about God's timing and his plan. I had given this whole thing to God and then when these troubles came up again I had taken part of it back. What was I doing?????? I received an email from my sister the afternoon after I had finally reached this point. My dad is in Kazakhstan right now visiting my sister and he had called and talked to Almas. He was going to try and meet with him. Almas told my dad that he is working very hard on our situation and he had told the judge that he had 2 more days to figure out if the adoption would continue or he wanted the money back that he had already paid him. My sister is hoping that the money thing will make things happen as this is focused on highly in this culture. Almas told them that he will be calling us soon to let us know what has happened. Mark told me I can't call him until next week. We need to give him 2 weeks since our last call to try and make headway.

Saturday, September 10, 2005

A Bump in the Road

Our dossier arrived in Almaty on Aug. 9 and was sent to the MOFA on Aug. 15. We were hoping to travel by the first or second week of September. Almas notified us the end of August that there were some problems. Our children have grandparents that he has visited now on numerous occasions to get permission for us to adopt the children and they are unwilling to sign. We were unaware that they were around or had the power to stop our adoption. The grandparents have had no contact with our kids since they were admitted to the orphanage (6 years). Almas has told us that each time he has gone to their house they have been drunk. Now once again we are waiting to see what God's plan is in this whole situation. Have I not learned patience yet? Are these not the children God intended for our family? There has been so much confirmation that we are on the right road!!!!